The mismatch between female/male spouse choice

January 31st, 2011 Filed under English entries, Opinion

There’s one interesting phenomenon in the offices in big cities such as Shanghai and Beijing: There are much more single females than single males. The reason is not because that the office ladies look ugly or make too littler money, rather, many of them are pretty, at around their late 20s or early 30s and have a good career future. They are actually good dating candidates if looks from the angle of a male. But why they are still single? As far as I observed, this is because the mismatch between the choices of dating partner of female and male.

Women tend to find candidates that are better than themselves so that they can rely on them and feel safety. On the contrast, men tend to look for women that are “lower” than them so that they can take care of them and feel the sense of responsibility. If a woman earns more than her husband, for most of the men, they wont feel comfortable. So most man prefer counterparts who are younger than themselves. For women, they don’t have this problem. They’d prefer a counterpart that are better than them in terms of financial, knowledge or experience. So, most women won’t refuse elder counterparts. If we divide both men and women into five groups in terms of their overall competency and then you will see the conflict. The Poor male and Excellent female are left and they can’t be together. This can explains why there are so many single women who are very competent in terms of experience and economic status. And I can deduct that there are many single poor man thought I didn’t meet them in my daily life.